HOW TO SELECT A GENUINE GURU? HOW TO AVOID COMMITTING SINS?

why we need a guru! We need Manthra to connect to Krishna. The Manthra should come through disciplic succession. We need an authorised Guru so that we can get Manthra from him! And, we can not goto krishna’s Kingdom directly. Here, our Guru stands as a connecting point between us & Krishna, because, he is already close to Krishna.

You know, if you want the Prime Minister, you can not straightaway go to his office & instantly meet him. You need some connecting persons! Some one who is close to P.M or P.M’s Secretary, like that! He will take you to P.M’s office. Because, P.M’s office is the protected area. Similarly, Krishna’s Goloka is also a protected area. Persons with pending bundle of sins, still to be wiped off can not enter there. First you should wipe the sins off. You can’t do it on your own. A genuine guru can accept all yr sins, purify you & take you to Krishna. Like, the Security/ Secretary of P.M who checks you up thoroughly & confirm that you don’t have any bombs, etc. Here, the bombs are sins. They must be removed. Only a pure & genuine Guru can do this.

So, if we choose a genuIne guru, we can go to Goloka Brindavan. If we choose a pretender or money minded person or a person having weakness of prime senses, sorry, we can not go to Brindavan, but to hell or to jail in earth itself. Because, such gurus will involve us in the samsara further deeply, and make us to do sins more vigourously. We will never be cleaned. So, think 100 times well before choosing a guru. Pray/ cry to Krishna himself to show you a suitable guru!

You may ask, Are there genuine gurus? Yes! There are! Though most of the persons have been contaminated in Kali Yuga, there are genuine gurus also! We should identify them properly. U ask, If I purchase a brinjal, it is easy to confirm whether it is good or not! But, how can I identify a genuine Guru? What is the formula for identifying a genuine guru? This is a very big topic. We R going to discuss it ! However, I give here authoritative sloka first given by Sastras & then discuss it in detail one by one.

Srila Rupa Goswami’s 1 st Sloka in Upadesamrutham gives us authoritative & very sharp formula to identify a genuine Guru. We will discuss it in detail daily! Let us now see the sloka:

Vaso Vegam manasa: krotha vegam
Jihva Vegam Uthrobastha Vegam
Edhaan Vegaan Yo Vishahedha dheera

Sarvaam Abimaam Pruthiveem Sa Sishyad.

Meaning: "A person of consistancy who is able to control (i) Inducement to Speak (ii) Needs of the mind (iii)Actions of Anger, (iv)Tongue, (v)Stomach, (vi)Sexual Organs, is qualified to accept disciples throughout the world!"

Though this is just a single sloka, we need to elaborate it, one every day, to get a clear picture! As this topic is very sensitive, to be written very responsibly, I request the devotee friends to ask sensitive questions without reading the entire series! However, if U find the posts good, you can comment it now itself!

Today’s Posts are very sharp as all the posts of today are Srila Prabhupada sharp comments about those who cross the Lakshman Rekha as a Guru. Srila Prabhupad Says: Some people do sins & try to compensate (Prayaschitham) them by doing a good Karma. For example, a thief knows that he will be arrested for this illegal actions. He also has seen some other thiefs being arrested by police! Still, he continues stealing! Intelligent persons gain experience by seeing & hearing. More intelligent persons read Sastras & learn that stealing is wrong & a thief will be punished if caught & hence avoid such actions. But, fools continue stealing though they know it is wrong! Such fools go to jail, come back & continue stealing again. If U consider, Jail Punishment is a compensation(Prayaschitham) for the offences, what is the use of these compensations?

An elephant takes bath in rivers, come back, take the mud & throw it on itself again! What is the use of bathing? SIMILARLY, SOME SO CALLED GURUS CHANT HARE KRISHNA MANTHRA & AT THE SAME TIME DO SINFUL & PROHIBITED ACTIVITIES! THEY THINK THAT THE CHANTING WILL COMPENSATE (Prayaschitham) THEIR SINS! THIS OFFENCE (One among 10 offences) AGAINST CHANTING IS CALLED:"NAMNO BALATHYASYA HIPAPA BUTHI:"

Many others commit sins between Monday to Saturday & go to God on Sunday & accept his sins for the past 6 days & think that they have got relief from sins. They start doing sinful activities again Monday to Saturday. They think, "Sunday will come; we can clear our sins". So, Maharaj Parikshith says to Sukadev Gosvami in Srimad Bhagavatham: " A SIN CAN NOT BE COMPENSATED BY A GOOD KARMA". Real Compensation is "Awakening the Krishna Consciousness that is in the sleeping state within us".

How to do that? A person is not affected by diseases until he follows proper sanitation, cleanliness & health! A man is to be trained as per a particular principles! Thus, we can renew his real knowledge! This proper way of life is called "Thabas". If we follow the regulative disciplinary principles of Krishna Consciousness, you can come to this stage! This simple process is recommended by Srila Rupa Gosvami.

O.K, friends, Next, Let us discuss the characters of Guru one by one!

(1)First Point is Controlling Speech!

A guru should talk only about Krishna & related things. He should not speak like a frog. A frog invites snakes by unnecessarily raising a peculiar sound. The frogs call: "Oh, snake, come & eat me!" If the frogs are silent, snakes can not find them & swallow. Similarly, if a guru speaks unnecessarily, he is inviting problems to his spritual service. One starts to speak whenever he gets chance to speak! He speaks about everything except Krishna Consciousness! But, Controling speech means not just shutting the mouth down. It means speaking only about Krishna Katha & Krishna Conscious only! Srila Prabhupad says: "Those who preaches Krishna Katha, is above the death". This is the method of controlling speech.

So, if a guru speaks about unnecessary things controlled by maya, he is not a genuine guru. He will speak attractively about material things to attract innocent people or the people who are in distress or who are in tension or people who faced a failure in life! He also assures that he will speak to God & cure all their problems overnight! Those people believe that that guru speaks very attractively so that they spent that time well & he will solve all their problems! They don’t know, that they have wasted their precious time in hearing things that take them away from Krishna to maya & they are going to lose their wealth & identity as a devotee of Krishna!

So, My dear friends, WATCH THE SPEECHES OF A GURU! Decide whether he is genuine or not! If he gives the assurances like the above, don’t believe tham! Remember, Guru is not to solve the problems of your family overnight! he has to guide you to come out of the problems & enter the eternal Kingdom of Krishna!

I write these points as a person among you, Not from a different platform above you. I also speak only authoritatively, though you feel that they are very sharp! My policy is, A devotee has every right to know these things!

Our thoughts creates 3 types of inducements in us: 1.of speak 2.of mind 3.of body. When a man fall in to these 3 inducements, his life becomes affected. Anyone who learnt to oppose these 3 inducements is a ‘Thabasvi’. He can escape from the actions of maya. If a person likes to enjoy the material world without control, it will reflect in his speech & writings! Some persons (gurus) speak unnecessary words & write useless books! So, a guru, should avoid them! He should speak only related to Krishna!

Srimad Bhagavatham (1.5.10.11) says: "The words that do not speak about the Bhagawan Krishna that purifies the entire universe, those words are considered as the dustbins that attract crows only!. Meantime, if the words that speak of the Name, Rupa, Lilas of the Supreme Personality of Godhead, those words make revolutionary changes in the minds of people who live an uncontrolled life, though those words have some mistakes". So, if a guru is sincere in Krishna Conscious, we should accept his words about Krishna, though they have some mistakes! (Though a guru speaks attractively, we should not accept his words, if he does not speak ONLto be said to youY about Krishna!)

We can escape from the unnecessary talks only if we talk about Krishna! We should use our words to know more about Krishna Consciouness! Sri Jagannatha Panditha requests those who has accepted the Sanyasa, ie, renunciation: "Oh, My dear Brother, You are in a renunced life! Don’t ask or speak about the material things! DON’T THINK OF GIRLS EVEN IN DREAMS! (Girls, Sorry, this is for gurus/ renunced persons, not for Grahasthas. So, Don’t get agitated. Even Grahasthas should not think of multiple girls! I will write later!) You have accepted a renunced life in which you should avoid the contacts with girls! If you like to have association with Sri Chaitanya Maha Prabhu, remember how Mahaprabhu rejected Chotta Haridoss (for his activities)! You should not wear rich dresses! Be humbe & keep Sri Sri Radha Krishna at the centre of your heart & serve them!"

Remember, a genuine renunced guru will speak with ladies only in public forum! He will never speak to a girl/lady privately when he is alone! He will try to avoid the eye to eye contacts with girls! He will maintain atleast 10 feet distance with ladies even in a public forum! He will never ask about yr personal life & problems!

All these points will help U to know abou the guru through his speeches! Friends, Let me finish the first character of guru with this!

Third character of a genuine guru is Controlling Anger!

A guru should control anger! It is not possible to stop anger. But we can control it! Srila Prabhupad says: "If we get angry only on the persons who insult Krishna & His devotees, not every one, this is the way of controlling anger! Thus the anger is controlled only within Krishna Consciousness! Sri Chaitanya Maha Prabhu had acquired renunciation! He is so merciful. However, when Sri Nityananda Prabhu was insulted & attacked by two persons- Jagai & Madhai, Maha Prabhu showed anger! Sri Chaitanya Maha Prabhu has said in Sikshashtaka: ‘thrunaath abi soonisena tharor abisahishnuna’, that means ‘one should be more humble than grass and more patient than a tree’. Then, why he showed anger on Jagai & madhai? Answer is: One shoul be prepared to bear the insults to himself! But a genuine devotee (say, a guru) acts like fire when Bhagawan or Bhagawan’s devotees are insulted!

We can’t stop anger! But, we can use it correctly whenever needed! Sri Hanumanji fired entire Sri Lanka! He is the Best & Humble devotee of Lord Ram! Then why he showed anger? Because, He did it for Lord Ram! ie, Hanumanji used his anger in a proper way! So, it is divine! Another example is Arjun! He did not like to fight a war! But, Krishna kindled the anger of Arjun! (My comment: Very nice point: ‘Krishna kindled the anger of Arjun! Enjoyable!). He said, "You must fight this war!". It is not possible to fight a war without anger! When the anger is used in Bhagawan’s Service, it is purified & controlled!"

Our unstable mind has two types of excitements:

1. Avirotha Preethi, ie, uncontrolled attachment, Eg: Following the principles of Mayavathis, Expecting benefits from our actions like Karmavathis, Putting faith on the plans based on material desires;

2.Virotha Yuktha krotha, ie, Anger due to disappointment! Gnanis, karmis & those who plan material plans, generally attracts the attention of materialistic people! But, when the plans of materialistic persons do not work out, they become angry!

Next, The fourth Character of a Guru! Srila Prabhupad Says: The needs of a body can be classified into three parts: 1.Needs of Tongue 2. Needs of stomach and 3.Needs of Sexual organs! All these needs are situated on the same line, ie, the needs of body starts from tongue only! If a person controls his tongue in eating only Krishna Prasadh, one can control the inducements of all his senses! How?

The fourth character of a guru is controlling tongue!

That means, controlling eating! Srila Prabhupad Says: "If we use our tongue only for eating Krishna Prashadam, we can control the inducements of tongue, stomach & Sexual Organs! Srila Bhakthi Vinodha Tagore says about this: ‘My Lord! This material body is the total form of ignorance! Its organs are the connections of routes that lead us to death! Any way, we have fallen in to the Material Sense Gratification (satisfaction)!

More over, among all our senses, this tongue is very inducing & difficult to be controlled!It is very difficult to control the tongue in this world! But, Krishna, You are very affectionate on us! You have sent this excellent prasadham to us, only to help us in controlling the tongue! So, We will take this prasadham with full satisfaction, praise you & invite Sri Chaitanya maha Prabhu & Sri Nityanandha Prabhu to help us in this!’

There are 6 types of tastes! If anyone gets oscillated due to any one of them, he is attached with the inducenment of tongue! Some people are attracted by the food prepared using meat, fish, egg, blood, etc. These items are considered as the forms of dead animals! many others are attracted by vegetables, grren leaves, milk products etc. But, all there are taken only to satisfy the tongue!

Krishna Conscious Devotees should avoid the food made up of so many Masala items, chillies, tamarind, etc. They should also avoid Pan, Betelnuts, tobaco, LSD, Marijuana, Abin, Arrack/ Alcohol, Coffee & Tea! (Don’t be angry with me for writing to skip Coffee/ tea. Of course, they induce nerves! It may be difficult for you, but possible if you try!). If you follow the practice of eating only those offered to Krishna, it is easy for us to escape from Maya! The food made of Vegetables, nuts, grains, fruits, Milk Products & Water are ideal to be offered to Krishna! Bhagawan Krishna Himself says this in Gita. But, though you eat only the Krishna Prasadam, you should not eat yoru full stomach! If U do so, U will fall into the need/ actions of tongue!

Sri Chaitanya maha Prabhu has taught us to avoid multiple varieties of food even as Prasadam. If you prepare the food in a mentality that you should eat variety of items & hence U prepare & offer varieties to krishna, that means that you have tried to please your senses, not Krishna!

Sri Chaitanya Charitamruta Says: Gihvara lalase Yei ithi uthithaya sisnodhara parayana Krishna Nahi paya", ie, "One can’t attain Krishna if he runs here & there to satisfy his tongue, stomach & Sexual Organs!"

Srila Prabhupad Continues: "As far as the inucements of tongue is concerned, it always like to eat only tasty varieties! We should not allow to eat according to the instructions of tongue! We should control it by giving Prashad (Offered food). A true devotee eats only when Krishna offers prashada to him! This the way to control the tongue! We should take prashad punctually at a particular time!"

 

Srila Prabhupad Continues: "We should not eat at hotels, or petty shops, etc just to please our tongue & Stomach! Chaitanya Charitamrutha (Antya: 6.326) says: "Don’t wear rich dresses; Don’t eat foods that are exceptionally tasty". Those who have been affected by stomach problems are only those who were unable to control the inducements of the Stomach!"

Srila Prabhupad Continues: " When we eat more than the required quantity, we invite many inconveniences automatically! However, if we follow the fasting on Ekadasi, Janmashtami, etc, we can control the inducements of Stomach!". Thus, A guru should follow all these controls of tongue & Stomach to be qualified to be a guru. These advices are for all devotees also to remain a devotee free from offences!"

NEXT, LAST CHARACTER OF A GENUINE GURU: CONTROLLING SEXUAL ORGANS!

The points that we discuss here is applicable for all people/ living being irrespective of race/ religion/ zone, etc. Had Krishna not given the sexual desire for every living being, the whole world will have no population! These feelings are just like another feeling like periodical apetite to eat in time! The difference is, The apetite to eat can not be controlled, but a person can control sexual apetite & live his full life! So, for the maintenance of the world order, Krishna has given this Sexual factor for all living beings in this world! (How Krishna gave this? I will tell that tommorrow). So, the purpose of this sexual desire is, to get children! Sastras give no more importance to it! Why?

These desires, when given much importance in life, lead to disappointment when the age advances! They are age related factors! So, one should not have too much of expectations about Sexual Feelings as they are only temporary! If one thinks about them, the desire increases! So, One should divert his mind in eternal feelings!

Before going to spritual points, let me give some biological points in 4-5 posts, related to how these typical inducements & sexual offences occur! Don’t think whether these details R necessary! There are reasons to write them that you can understand later!

How to train our children to be sexually stable? The harmone that gives female special characters is Progesterone; Similarly, the harmone that gives male characters is Testosterone! Both R available in males & females! In Females, Progesterone is more & testosterone is less! In males, testosterone is more & progesterone is less! These harmones remain idle till the age 12 or 13.

For every male & female, when he/she attains the age of 13 to 15, these harmones start developing secondary sexual characters like the internal & external changes in the body! This is the period to be taken care of in every child, as the child remain confused about these changes! Between the age of 13-18, these children feel pleasant feeling on seeing opposite sex! These children feel happy to decorate themselves! They try to convince themselves that they are beautiful & feel happy if their beauty is recognised by others! This is the crucial period that the children have to take care! This is the period that these sexual harmones induce the person to oscillate their mind on opposite sex! This is the period that most of the male offender take advantage of that child!

This feeling purposefully created by these harmones continues throughout the life of a person till the age of 50-60! So, a person has to fight with these harmones till he/ she gets old! The Secretion of these harmones gets reduced in the fifties in females & in sixtees in males! So, throughout the life, the females & males, if they interact without control, these harmones get induced & hence the persons commit sexual offences! That is why, our sastras have warned that women & men should not interact beyond a limit!

When many children diverts their mind in Studies, Chanting, Reading Spritual texts & Sath Sangha, these harmones will remain under control & will not affect them! Instead, if they mingle with the contaminated society, without involvement in Krishna COnsciousness, the chances of their being disturbed is more! Because, they will not have the mind stability to refuse wrong doing as these wrong actions are temporarily making the life enjoyable!

As every person is subject to these disturbances (though no one accepts this publicly), A Guru should be very careful in dealing with women! At any time, they will lose their stability when they mingle with women without control! Another thing we have no other way than to accept is: Women are more beautiful than men in this world! Krishna has created like that so that the population & the world order is maintained! Men are easily affected by even a small manerism of women & hence the men are advised to maintain a decency with women, if they like to improve in spritual life! In short, Gurujis, if they maintain uncontrolled contacts with women may fall from the spritual advancement! This is applicable to all the human being!

What to do if the disturbances occur again and again? Don’t feel shy! They must tell their parents to arrange a match & get married immediately! They are allowed to marry a girl & lead a Krishna Conscious family! Sastras suggest that boys & girls get married before 25 so that they can improve in spritual life after bringing his children up! Instead of spoiling the purity of many girls, it is better to live with a single girl following Krishna Consciousness!

Srila Prabhupada is very strict while advising in this matter! He says: "We can control the inducements of sexual organs, by refraining from using the feelings in improper ways! One must use the sexual organs only to get a Krishna Conscious children! Otherwise, one should not use them! ISKCON supports marriages only to get Krishna Conscious children! Not for the sense gratification (satisfaction)!"

Srila Prabhupad continues: "In ISKCON, these children are sent to the Gurukuls situated in Mayapur or Vrindavan. There, they are trained to be a full Krishna Conscious choildren! Those who are eligible to get Krishna Conscious choildren are allowed to use their sexual organs! When one gets full practice in the Regulative Principles of Krishna Consciousness, he gets the eligibility to be a Spritual Guru!" (Contd)

Srila Prabhupad Continues: "As far as the inducements of Sexual organs are concerned, there are two types! One is acceptable Sexual relation & the other is Immoral sexual contact! When a man attains the right maturity, he is allowed to marry & get Good children! It is aceptable to sastras & Legal. If it is not allowed, he may use wrong methods for satisfaction! " (My comment: Even a guru is allowed to lead a married life!)"

O.K! What are the other things to follow to avoid these sexual inducements? I will tell them tommorrow! Bye friends! I think, it is too much of details that I have written even on tour! I hope, these details are very useful to you! This page is to guide you all aspects of spritual life so that you can live happily without unnecessary confusions & doubts! Let us meet again tommorrow!

O.K, We r discussing the last character of a Genuine Guru, ie, Contrlling Sexual Inducements! You may think, why I am giving such plenty of details about these sexual offences! My answer is: Sexual Discipline is the Prime & Most important necessity of a Guru & all men & women! I never discuss anything without any reasons! I have seen most of the devotees are innocent!

My commanding advice to all of you is : "Don’t be innocent! Apply the intelligence given by Krishna! Krishna says in Gita: ‘I am your intelligence!’ Don’t just blindly believe whatever others say! Review, why they are saying so & decide after taking time!"

Now, I tell you some alarming facts! THERE IS NO SAFETY FOR EVEN A CHILD IN THIS WORLD! These criminals have not spared even children in the age group of 7-17! A very responsible N.G..O took a survey among school children throughout India, that was accepted by our Govt! It says: "65 % of the children in India have somehow or other, faced some kinds of sexual disturbances right from their age 7-10, till 17. Among them, 10-15% are serious offences & 85-90% are purposeful disturbances for their private organs! The survey further adds that 90% of the persons who commit these crimes are not new persons from outside, but from within the family circle, like relatives, friends on whom the parents put their confidence & allow the children to play with them without any supervision & advice!

How these offences occur? It is not only the innocence of children, but also ours! Our sastras say, if a girl attains the age of 8, no male member should touch her unnecessarily! The girl/ boy children of the age group 6-15 will not be able to differentiate which is good & which is bad! As these criminals are their known people, these children think that all they experience may be right as it is their known person! Adding fuel to fire, when these disturbances occur from a known person, he/she is not able to stop it, because these children innocently enjoys the feelings they realise!

So, I tell you, We only should safeguard ourselves! No need of blaming others! We should invole the children in Sprituality right from childhood & supervise their activities! A mother should decently educate their 9-13 years old girl child about the body changes & why it happens & to which level she can allow others (even relatives & friends) to touch them & how to react if there are any disturbances for her private organs! The same thing should be educated by the father to his son! If this is done, we can save our children from such Criminals who are increasing in number! Remember, this is Kali Yug! If we are not intelligent & careful, we are not protected & the world will override on us & go forward! So, come out of innocence & Be alert!

O.K, As I am also a Qualified Psychological Counsellor, I have written them as clearly as possible without damaging the status of this spritual page! With this, I stop writing more about Sexual offences! As innocence is the reason for children to lose their safety to seniors, the same innocence is the reason for any matured women to lose their sexual safety! So, women in this Kali Yug should safeguard themselves!

As only women are mostly vulnerable to sexual offences, I give some tips, only for innocent women to follow while following Spritual practice:

 1.Consider any spritual organisation as just a Gurukul teaching/ training us to learn Sprituality! It is a spritual school. That’s all!

2.Don’t wear rich dresses & jewels & avoid rich make up when you go to temples & Spritual organisations! Go as simply as possible!

3. As Gurus are following/ trying to follow Bramhacharya/ Sanyasa, keep a distance of about 5-10 feet while asking doubts! Speak to him only in Public! Don’t laugh & joke as U do to your brother/ sister.

4. I have seen an innocent girl (age 21) who first liked the words of a Siksha Guru (Age 52), but later liked that guru himself! That guru fell from brahmacharya, married her, now living with a child with problems!

5. Ask only the doubts on following Krishna Consciousness to a guru!

6.When the programmes are over in a temple/ Spritual Organisation, come back to home!

7. Always be in crowd! Don’t be alone! 8. If a person asks about yr family’s personal matters, don’t tell them! Never tell any complaints about yr husband/ children to any 3rd person including ladies! Let them be within 4 walls!

9. Just because a guru is very genuine, that does not mean we can speak freely with all his staff members! They are following/ trying to follow that guru! So, let us leave them alone!

10. If any person speaks/acts offensively in a spritual organisation/ temple, first complain it to higher authorities! If no steps R taken, leave that organisation/ temple & go to another branch of it or another temple! Nothing is lost!

Most importantly, this body is beautiful now, but will be contaminated in 3-4hrs after we leave this body! We R this Athma! Not body! So, let us not care the body feelings though they R powerful! Krishna Consciousness is more powerful than it. Pour the Krishna Consciousness water on the fire of Kama! Things R over! Be happy & blissful! Break the actions of Kali with the sword of Krishna Consciousness!

I have seen Sanyasis who never see at ladies while giving speeches! A Genuine Guru, who has sacrificed His life exclusively for Krishna, should be respected as we respect Krishna! Because, a genuine guru is innocent & has already got the special mercy of Krishna! He can guide us properly to go back to Krishna, fighting maya! So, Select a Genuine Guru & Go back to Krishna! This topic is over!

I am very happy to note that the topic on the qualities of a genuine guru has gained overwhelming response from my fans, particularly the quality of controlling sexual desires! Actually, I first hesitated to write the topic elaborately, as the friends may think unnecessary! But, after completing it, I can understand that the friends feel that a true guide has gone! Ruchi Kumari has written in comments to write more on this topic! I received two e-mails requesting me to write more about this topic!

I was able to learn almost all extremes of human life! These experiences matched with the trends mentioned in Sastras about Kali Yug! I have seen that most people respect only beautiful girls! They expect that the girl has something special within her! Imagine friends, if there is no skin around our body, who will like us? Then, there will only be flush, blood, urine, stool, nasty water, alarming series of teeth, and two cavities in the places of those beautiful flying eyes! Thats all!

I read a story! A prince of a country was going round the city! He saw a beautiful girl sitting at the veranda of a house! He immediately got attracted by her & he entered the house, and told her: "I am the nprince of this country! I am attracted by yr beauty! Please come with me!". The girl had dedicated her life for Lord’s service! The girl told him: "Please come after one month". The prince came after one month to that house.

That girl was not there, but another ugly girl with only bones & skin on her body was standing there! "He asked her: "Where is that beautiful girl, I saw a month back?" The girl replied: "It is me only!" Prince asked: "Hey, U were so beautiful then! Where is yr beauty?"

The girl took him to a room! She showed him 4 pots & told him: "Prince, I have saved all my beauty in these pots. See them!". The prince got confused & opened the pots one by one! One had full of stool, the other had full of urine, the other had full of blood & the other had full of saliva!

The girl told the prince: "Dear prince, our body is beautiful only because these items are inside them! If we remove them, our body will look like me only! Don’t give importance for beauty! It will disappear soon! Bye!".

The prince understood the reality & stopped his desire of enjoying the beautiful girls!

So, a girl or boy is beautiful only because there is athma inside & keeps her/ him bright eyed & with mannerisms! Actually, this body has been engineered by the greatest engineer Krishna in a well planned manner! The purpose is to multiply the population. So, fertilisation should happen. Krishna has given these organs for vital purpose of fertilisation & reprodution!

He has given food for the new born baby from mother herself! These milk producing & Storing organs to supply milk to baby are shown as symbol of sex by cinema & media! So, Why we should go for criminal acts in this matter?

So, my advice is :"Girls, Don’t think that there is some thing special in men! Boys, don’t think that there is some thing special in men! Both of them have only flush! So, value their heart & the sentiments in it. Give respect to opposite sex because, Krishna is inside that heart!"

Almost all genuine gurujis have said that we should avoid onion & garlic! Why? Of course, the onion once changed the Indian government at the centre! Because, at that time, the prices of Onion was not on earth, but on moon! So, we can understand how much the people are attached to onion! Mostly, it becomes a quarrel if the husband forgets to purchase onion & garlic! But, many spritual organisations avoid garlic & Onion!

Garlic & onion has a good & a bad property! Garlic has a compound called ‘Allicin’ that separates the Cholesterol from binding with each other that leads to coagulation & later closing blood vessels that leads to Heart Attack (Myocardial Infarction)! So, taking garlic may prevent cholesterol! The same effect is available in onion also in small quantities! But, if we take them for the sake of heart, we have a side effect!

Garlic & onion makes our body’s blood circulation fast! As the blood flows fast, it makes body brisk, tensioned & induces organs! This is called "Rajo Guna". As blood circulates fast, the sexual desires increase & hence offences! Mostly, those who take garlic & onion too much, always stand for fighting & enjoying life and those who avoid them are silent & peaceful & not ready for quarrels & do not commit sexual offences!

So, it is in our interest to decide which is better! If we like to improve in Krishna Consciousness, it is better to stop garlic/onion! Srila Prabhupad has said: "If anyone likes to improve in Krishna Consciousness, he should avoid Garlic & Onion & the Spicy (masala) items in our food! We should never offer the food that contains these items to Krishna!" Of course, it is very difficult! But, to develop Satva Guna, this is important!

So, if a person leads a disciplined life as per sastras, he will always have the mercy of Krishna! If he lives hidden lives also, how can he expect Krishna to come instantly? Srila Prabhupad writes in Bhagavatham (2-8-20): "With the mercy of Krishna, a devotee of Krishna like Ambharish Maharaj, can conquer very big Yogeswaras like Durvash Rishi! His Yoga Siddhis did not work before Ambharish!"
　

Srila Prabhupad Continues: "Dhrowpathi lead a pure life as a devotee of Krishna & Krishna came to her rescue! Srila Prabhupad writes in Bhagavatham (2-8-20): "The kings of Guru Vamsa wanted to see Dhrowpathi in an awkward stage (I changed words)! But, when she was in a dangerous/ helpless stage, Krishna saved her by offering an unlimited length of saree! Dhrowpathi didn’t know Krishna is Paramathma!"

Srila Prabhupad Continues: "The children remain safe with the strength of their parents! Children can not save themselves with any artifiial methods! But, they are protected by the mercy of their parents! Similarly, though the true devotees of Krishna do not learn yoga directly, they become yogeshwaras due to the unlimited strength/ power of Krishna!" This is the strength of purity! ie, devotion without offences!

Srila Prabhupad says in Purport for Srimad Bhagavatham (2-6-8): "People forget the burden of family when they feel the happiness in getting Sexual sense satisfaction & getting children! If Krishna had not given a coating on the sexual organ, that gives a pleasant feeling for a few minutes, the person will totally stop getting children & hence population growth will not be there!"

Srila Prabhupad continues: "The deep satisfaction given by this coating makes a person forget all his family problems! So, he does not get satisfied with a single child! Because of this temporary pleasant feeling, he increase the number of children & then, struggles to bring them up! However, this coating is real one as it starts from the transcendental body of Krishna Himself! So, it should be divine! But..

Though this coating comes from Krishna, when it comes to material world to humans, due to material contaminations, it loses its purity/ morality! In this material world, only the Sexual Life has been the reason for all the problems a man faces! So, No one should use this sexual desire beyond the requirement! Though we should multiply the population, we should give priority to Spritual development!"

Srila Prabhupad continues: "Considering the spritual development, one should follow family planning or stop sex life! For that, artificial methods of using contraceptives is to be totally avoided! (As Prabhupad has given frank words, I have replaced many words with soft ones in all my posts every day, as this page is read by even School Students). Using contraceptives is the sign of material contamination!"

Srila Prabhupad continues: "By using the contraceptives, the people like to make use of sexual life more, as it won’t create children! Only those who don’t realise the importance of Spritual development, use these Sexual organs more & lead a life with only material pleasure! So, one should avoid excessive sex life!" Thus, Srila Prabhupad advises to either reduce Sexual life or stop sexual life!"

So, My advice to all these criminals: "Don’t play with the life of Opposite sex! Sastras say: "If a person spoils the Virginity of an innocent girl/ boy, he/ she will be placed in the MOST CRUEL HELLS after his/ her death! If a Spritual person commits Sexual offences, he will be punished 1000 times severely than that for an ordinary offender!"

Jai Shree Krishna!